‘Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you gained from having one’
I’ve had my fair share of comments these last few years. “you have a child?” “OMG, is he yours? but… you are so young?” even friends would say things like “I want to do things in the right order you know like… graduate, then get married and then maybe start to think about children”.
I would be lying if I started rambling on about how easy parenting is; how well-behaved my little boy is at all times and how perfect our life is. Yes, I do change a large amount of nappies, yes I do spend some time pretending to be the hulk for my sons entertainment and yes, I have once had to say “yes son, you are right that is mummies boobies” in a lift full of people. But you know what, I wouldn’t change a single high or low moment of parenthood for the world. I have made many mistakes already these last few years but all honest parents, whatever their age will admit they have made many mistakes, more than they care to admit.
Once my father said to me;
“we always did for you what we thought was best at the time, whether or not that was the best thing, who knows. But you children can learn from our mistakes, and again you will make your own mistakes that your children will then learn from and so on… that’s life”
And he couldn’t be more right, whether I was a 15 or 35 year old mother. I would still make mistakes and that’s just life.
There is a big misconception that all young parents have made a careless mistake and have thrown their life away.
Let me just get one thing straight. Being a young mother is not a ‘careless mistake’. I would’t be where I am today without my son, cliche I know but very true. My outlook on life is very different to what it used to be. With everything our little family has faced, we have come out stronger than ever. I’ve learnt many things about my self, some things that I love and somethings I dislike. Falling pregnant at 19 did not mean my life was over. My life had only just began, I just didn’t realise it yet.
Yes being a young mother is a huge responsibility and an on-going challenge but so is being a parent in general. But it’s given me a purpose and a belonging. A purpose to be a mother. A belonging to someone who loves me dearly. And most importantly, it is a challenge that I will never regret entering.
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I will, thank you X
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You have so much to be proud of. Congratulations.
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Thank you so much! X
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Amazing! I was also pregnant at 19 so I can relate! ❤️❤️ Congratulations mama!
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Aw thats lovely, we are just as capable as anyone else! Thank you so much X
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What a beautiful post. Well done to you!! Just goes to show you can always achieve your dreams as long as your willing to work for it! Xx
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Thank you so much for your lovely comment! Anyone can do what they want to if they work for it!! X
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Congratulations love, I loved this post so much. This has me looking forward to going back to school in the next year. I can’t wait to receive my B.A. 3 semesters to go and I’m already excited even though it’s so far!
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Thank you so much! And wow, good luck you!! I’m sure you will do fantastic! It will soon fly round!! Can’t wait to here all about it X
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Keep on keepin’ on! Being a mother is an adventure and it sounds like you are embracing it beautifully.
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“young mums are just as capable as anyone” it is true indeed. I was pregnant at 24, though my few friends were still working or studying but I gave up job just to have family and now I would say at young age I can take care of my baby with so much determination!
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Being a parent is the best achievement of all. My little boy is everything and makes me who i am today. Wow, well done you, you should be so proud of yourself!! X
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Yours is a very inspiring story, Sophie! Especially for people who feel that women, with children, are better off taking care of them at home than working or studying! I am sure so many young woman will have so much to learn from your story!
Bravo to you! Best wishes for your future! 🙂
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Thank you so much for this lovely comment!! I really hope so, i want women to feel like they can achieve what ever they want in life. Having a baby doesn’t stop you, if anything they are a reason to work hard X
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Well said, Sophie!
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I absolutely LOVE this. Amazing woman. Amazing mother. X
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Aw, what a lovely comment!! Thank you so so much X
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I was a young Mom too!!! You’re doing great!
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Aw thank you!! X
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Congratulations on your degree! Going to college while being a Mommy is not one bit easy. I graduated with my associates degree when my son was 10 months old…I was 24 when he was born. Your determination is inspiring 🙂
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Thank you so much!! X
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And well done you too!!! It is certainly not easy!! X
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Congrats!…lovely & inspiring post…keep up the good work
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Thank you so much X
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Wow! Just think if had done it sooner you wouldn’t have been able to share the graduation memory with you son and husband. I’m so excited and proud of you and I don’t even know you 😀 Your son is adorable! Is he always so joyful? He most likely is. 😀 Thank you for following my blog and for sharing your life with all of us.
~Dulcinea
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That’s exactly how I look at it. I feel incredibly lucky that I was able to share my special day with my little family. Aw, thank you so much. Yes, he is always joyful, his smile is everything. Thank you for your comment and following back, can’t wait to read your blogs. X
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You’re so welcome 🙂
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Congratulations!! I can relate to your story! I had my first my freshman year of college. I have yet to finish, but you are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing. 👏🏽
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Your very welcome, thank you!! And well done you! X
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Good for you for making it all work! I also had both my children while in school. I was 2 years into my Ph.D program when I found out I was pregnant with our daughter. Then brilliantly chose to have our second before defending my thesis. I have a toddler and a baby with me in my graduation photos. I also had a husband who was incredible supportive and would not have been able to finish my program without his help (or conceive the daughter and son :), hehe). A number of people told me to just take the master’s degree and quit because it was so tough. I don’t quite even when I should. I am happy today and all the work paid off. It will for you too!
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Wow! How fantastic, well done you!! X
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Lovely post and thank you for the follow 😀
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Thank you x
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Congratulations on your degree. My son is 1 and I am looking to get on a Masters in January. I’m scared but reading about other Mums like you who have studied is giving me hope that I can too. Thank you! X
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You can achieve whatever you want. Us mamas are stronger than anyone. After all, we have been through childbirth. Thank you for your lovely comment x
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Young mum here too, just completed 3 year college course. It takes real determination, I really connected to this post. Well done you! X
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Well done you!! It’s not easy, but we do it all for them!! Thank you for sharing!! X
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I’m a bit late to reading this, but I’m so glad I have finally found something SO relatable! I had my little girl in the summer last year at just 18. I’ve just received my offer to study Early Childhood to (like you) become a primary teacher. It’s amazing to be shown that it is achievable, and that I can 100% graduate if I put my mind to it. Thank you for reassuring me! You should be so proud of what you’ve achieved from having your baby to graduation itself!! X
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Any positive feedback is great. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!! Good luck to you, and I’m sure you will do amazing!! I’m glad you found this post so relatable! Thank you so much X
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Being a parent is a challenge at any age and everything has its pros and cons. But, the miracle of nurturing a young life is so worth it!
I think age matters less than commitment, and it looks like you’re doing a great job with your son!
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Thank you so much X
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Inspiring words!
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Aw thank you X
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Really amazing post. I’m choosing not to have children for a myriad of reasons, but I always find it amazing when women choose to have families. It’s a huge responsibility.
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Thank you so much for your lovely comment X
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It’s very admirable that you have this approach to motherhood, especially being so young. And also, a supporting family that is there for you no matter what.
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Very true words. My family has a lot to do with how determined I am. Thank you for your lovely comment X
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I love being a mother! I have three and people can’t believe I want more! 🙂 Congrats.
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Wow, 3 thats amazing. Being a child of 4, I too would love loads of children if I can! So much company for each child. And I am so close to all my siblings now- it’s great. Never a dull moment in the family X
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I had my first baby when I was 18 and this helps me to be more motivated in life. I graduated from College and find a decent job. And it is all because of my baby who is my inspiration.
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Well done you lovely!! You sound like you are doing fantastic, my little boy is my inspiration too X
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Being a young mum makes me more responsible it was hard but glad that I ahve my family who is very supportive.
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Very true. It made me grow up quicker and definitely has made me a better person. Thank you for your comment X
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You are so inspiring! I bet you will do great as a mom, do what you have to do and be a good role model to every young mamas out there.
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Aw thank you so much for you lovely words. It means so much. I am so glad there are many people here that can relate to my post. X
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It is nice to read that! IT is so amazing and lovely. Your baby will be so proud of you!
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Thank you so so much!! I really do hope so X
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What a beautiful and thought provoking post. Regardless of obstacles goals can still be achieved
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Thank you so much X
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Oh, dear, loved reading your story and your dad gave you advice of a lifetime. Don’t let the world tell you what order your life should align; life happens. You have the greatest gift that many long for, cherish it and live your life as it manifests. You have a lifetime ahead of your to achieve whatever you want.
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Thank you for reading! What a lovely comment. That’s it- things happen for a reason. And I couldn’t be happier. And your right I have the most precious gift and that’s my little boy- happy and healthy. X
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I know many mothers who had their children young, even though I had my first at almost thirty. From what they’ve told me, it wasn’t so bad having their children young because they were able to grown up with them and learn as their children grew. I can definitely see how that could be somewhat advantageous.
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Thank you. Every one has different views. I don’t think age matters at all. As long as your happy that’s all the counts. Thank you for reading X
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Thank you for this post! I was a young mother, too and there are so many misconceptions about our capabilities. You’re amazing. 😀
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Thank you so much!!! Is young mothers are just as capable as any one!! Well done to you too and thank you for reading X
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Your post is really inspiring and congrats for being a mom at a younger age. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
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Thank you so much !! X
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Thanks for sharing your personal story! Very Awesome!
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