Please take note…
‘She doesn’t look autistic’ is not a compliment.
‘But she’s so pretty’ is not a compliment either.
‘She can’t have autism, she looks normal’ is even less of a compliment and is in fact hurtful.
‘Normal’ is a figment of peoples imaginations, it does not exist. Insinuating people with autism aren’t normal is beyond hurtful. Get to know the person, look beyond their disability and see them for the wonderful individuals that they are. If you don’t, believe me you are missing out!
Autism does not have a look, it’s an invisible disability. That simply means you can’t tell that person is disabled just by looking at them. You may notice somebody has autism because they are wearing ear defenders or because they are stimming or because they are in a buggy or a wheelchair but not by how they look. They don’t have a flashing neon autism sign coming out of their heads, they look like everyone else… if anything just more beautiful.
Our daughter is perfect, quite simply stunning, with the biggest smile and huge brown eyes, that’s how she looks, that is how I’d describe her looks and features, not autistic.
Isla looks like Isla, it really is that simple.
BY ISLA’S VOICE