When I was growing up, I always thought that I would be one of those mothers that would have it all figured out. I would graduate, get a job, get married and then have children. The truth is my life didn’t happen that way. I fell pregnant at 19 and didn’t it half take me by surprise.
I can’t lie and tell you all that everything in my life has planned out exactly as it would have done if I hadn’t of fell pregnant. But I am glad. I am glad that I am a mother. I am glad that I mean so much to someone so little and vulnerable.
I have been choosing GCSE’s, A-Levels and Degrees accordingly, since I was 16, to pursue my career choice as being a special needs teacher. Falling pregnant at 19 did not stop me, I finished university and I even went on to do my Masters in the Theory of Education.
We as a family have been through so much over this last 3 years. We have a little boy with a rare chromosomal abnormality that has a huge impact on our life. They barely know anything about it and sometimes it feels like they are using our son as a guinea pig. I struggle to hold a job down because of the amount of hospital and doctor’s appointments we have every month for our son. I have been battling with depression over everything that has been going on and I have recently been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.
Things out of my control have stopped me from working. I am a driven person and I would love to be out working but at the moment, it is virtually impossible. To be honest, I do not need an explanation as to why I am not working because its our choice. People are quick to judge stay-at-home parents for being too lazy but working parents too have a lot of judgement for leaving their children all day with childminders. You can’t do right for doing wrong. So my advice would be to do what makes you happy.
Quite a lot of people think that being a stay-at-home parent is an easy option for parents that can’t be bothered too work. And i’ll be honest, so did I before I had a child. Being a stay-at-home parent is many things but easy isn’t one of them. It is the most rewarding job in the world but it can be frustrating, challenging and even hard work. Yes I said work. Just remember being a full-time parent is a job. It’s the same as being a childminder, nursery nurse, or even a teacher. We too are helping children develop and grow and be the best they can be- just in the comfort of our own home with our own children. So yes I am living my dream job after all. I am a teacher to my own child every single day.